With every new year comes New Year’s Resolutions.
This is the year. This is MY year!
I know I slacked off in the past, but that’s behind me now. THIS year is different! This is the year I turn things around.
No you won’t. If you never have, you never will.
Not with that mindset.
There are 2 reasons why you tell yourself the same old thing every year and never follow through:
Before you accuse me of being a dream killer, just hear me out.
As the year ends, we start thinking about what we could’ve or should’ve done in the past year. Then we think about what we’ll do different next year.
It’s exciting to think about making positive change. We feel a boost of motivation. We start to feel like this is it, this is the year. We expect that motivation to stick around.
Then what happens?
The new year comes and after a few weeks, the motivation wears off. We fall back to our old ways. We thought that we were going to change habits that have been well-established in our behavior for years or even decades maybe.
We do this funny thing where we build up unrealistic expectations in our head. Then when reality doesn’t meet the expectations we imagined, we crumble.
You see this all the time in life. Sometimes it’s minor and other times it’s more extreme:
- Many women expect to be married by their mid-twenties. How many girls aged 24-30 do you know right now who are having an identity crisis because they aren’t married yet?
- Many men expect to be rich and have their dream family by their 40’s or 50’s and have a mid-life crisis when reality doesn’t turn out that way.
So we get all jacked up on our big dreams and goals for the next year and feel an immense surge of motivation and drive. We already feel like we are our new selves. We are already celebrating the victory before even entering the battle.
Worst of all, we honestly expect that motivation to carry-on endlessly. Why though? When has that ever happened before in life?
If you want to have a great 2015, expect it to be tough. Expect a lot of hard work and adversity. Expect to be challenged more than you ever have before. Because if you seriously want to see a significant change for the better, that’s what it’s going to take. That goes for financial goals, fitness goals, and everything else.
Don’t expect anything to happen. Accept the fact that you will have to make it happen.
Prepare yourself for a long battle. You will want to give up, you will want to give in and you will make excuses.
If you shift your focus you will see that there is more at stake than you realize. 2015 is just a year. That’s it.
Forget about making 2015 my year and start worrying about my life. 2015 is the first year of the rest of your life.
You don’t have to change everything in your life in one year. For some people, that’s just too much.
Instead, think of the big picture.
What can you do this year that will improve the rest of your life?
What if, instead of trying to make $1 million dollars this year, you decide to create habits that build a person capable of making $1 million every year?
What if, instead of trying to lose 30 lbs, you decide to create a lifestyle that keeps you healthy and fit forever?
There’s 2 things that make this approach less tempting:
- Delayed satisfaction
- Long-term commitment
Those don’t sound like “New Year’s Resolutions” do they? They’re more like “life resolutions”.
And that is exactly what I invite you to commit to this year.
Don’t worry about getting everything you want in 1 year. In 2015, commit to becoming the person who eventually gets everything they want, year after year.
Put in the hard work now, because building a strong foundation only gets harder as you get older.
No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have to work hard. Would it kill you to work a little harder? Can you commit to putting in a little extra work now, to know that it will pay off in dividends later?
How many years have ended where you felt unsatisfied or unfulfilled?
What’s it going to take? How many years of your life have to be wasted? How much longer are you going to procrastinate on your dreams? At what point are you willing to say: “Fuck it, I’m all in.”?
I want to see you become the best version of yourself this year. If you’re all in – I’m here for you.
You might not have given any thought about how you’re going to improve yourself this year, but I already have and I have a lot planned for you.
I sincerely wish you all the best in 2015.
Until Next Time,
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