People often describe the act of giving to others as a selfless act.
But it’s not…
Giving is a selfish act, and it’s the best act of selfishness we could perform.
Of all the selfish things you could do, giving to others will likely be the most well-received.
How is giving to others selfish?
Because giving to others makes us feel great!
Being selfish doesn’t necessarily mean you put yourself ahead of other people — it simply means you act in a way that benefits you.
Whether you realize it or not, giving to others benefits you.
Why Giving is the Best Act of Selfishness
Giving is the best act of selfishness because:
- It benefits someone else
- It makes you feel good
- It creates positive karma
What’s not to love?
The only people who don’t enjoy giving to others are bitter, unhappy folks who believe they deserve to receive more than give.
They don’t understand the cosmic law of karma.
Nothing is free. You must always give to receive.
In all endeavors — from personal relationships to business, you must give to receive.
If you want to benefit yourself, give more.
It’s the best act of selfishness you could perform.
Giving What Others Want
The problem is that I’m not the only one who has figured out that giving is the best act of selfishness.
We see it time and time again — especially with parents.
And I can see how they get caught up in it. When I look to the future, I have the same recurring ideas about what I will give my children.
I want to give them the life I didn’t have.
I want to give them the best education.
I want to give them access to the best resources to pursue the life they choose.
What do you notice about those statements?
I want, I want, I want…
I want to give them everything — but what about what they want?
Too often parents will guilt their children by saying “I sacrificed this and this to give you everything, and you don’t even appreciate it.” These are usually the parents that gave their kids the toys they wanted but didn’t give them their time — the thing their kids really wanted.
Those parents weren’t giving to their kids — they were investing. They gave with an expectation for what they would receive.
They thought that giving their kids “the life they couldn’t have” would influence their kids to choose the career path they wanted and to make other important life decisions on their terms.
They revealed the selfish nature of giving that we prefer to ignore.
This is only one example. You see this exact same behavior in business all the time — especially in the corporate world where everyone is so phony and obvious with their reciprocal manipulation attempts.
It’s the opposite of building karma and it’s just not as effective as giving selflessly.
How to Give Selflessly
To give selflessly, you can’t have any expectations.
Whatever you give — whether that’s your time, money, a present, or anything else — it is a gift.
Not an investment. A gift.
That person may never repay you — they might not even thank you.
You have to know that beforehand and be content with that.
If you want to invest in someone, state your terms upfront. Don’t disguise an investment as a gift. Not only is it fake — it’s a terrible investment strategy!
When I give to others, I don’t want, need, or expect anything in return.
Yet, somehow, those gifts always seem to come back my way, even if they take years to manifest.
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