A subscriber writes in…
“[…] my trouble is the long term commitment with our overly busy lives. Any tips on that?”
Anyone can change their diet for a week or work on their side hustle for a few days.
But that doesn’t get you anywhere.
Long-term commitment is the key to accomplishing your objectives.
Undoubtedly, this is the hardest part of personal development — until it becomes one of the easiest parts.
There is no secret or trick to staying consistent — but in my experience, there are a number of mindset shifts you can do to make the change you need.
A year ago I said don’t fake it ’til you make it — be it!
In summary: Don’t try to act like the person you wish to be. Become the person you wish to be. If you really are that person, it’s not an act and you aren’t faking anything.
Making big changes in your life is as simple as changing your mindset.
Of course, you still have to put in the work — but that’s easy when you have the right mindset.
The hardest part is changing your mind. Once you’ve done that, everything else falls into place.
After all, how do people go to a job they hate day after day? How do people sit through bullshit classes where professors are more concerned with brainwashing than educating?
They’ve decided that’s what they need to do.
Everything in your life is a choice — happiness is a choice.
For whatever reason, you haven’t decided to be consistent… yet.
Ask yourself the burning question
What do I really want?
Why do I want to ________? (fill in the blank)
It could be…
- A new diet or exercise program
- A new philosophy or approach to life
- A new hobby, project, or side business
Whatever thing you’re trying to stay consistent with — what’s the end game? Be extremely honest with yourself. What do you really want to accomplish?
The reason why this matters is because there are usually multiple paths to your desired outcome.
Maybe you’re just trying the wrong thing. Or maybe — and here’s where I know I will lose most people — maybe you honestly don’t want the end result you think you do.
If you’ve been trying to lose weight year after year and still haven’t, you either…
- Have serious fuckarounditis
- Or you desire fatty food more than you desire a lean body
Maybe you don’t actually care about being fit. (And by “maybe,” I mean “obviously”)
Maybe you just want the benefits that come along with being fit, such as having a hot girlfriend.
Well, friend, I’ve got some good news for you — you don’t have to be in shape at all to get a hot girlfriend.
You could always make more money. That’s a timeless strategy. Or you could just be a masculine male — women love that and there’s no competition in that department on the market.
What I’m getting at here is that you need to know your why.
Until you have a sense of purpose, you will have no vision.
And without vision, you will only find yourself running in circles.
Let’s say that you know your why and you still can’t stay consistent.
If you genuinely understand what you want and why you want it, yet you still can’t seem to stay consistent with the things that will get you there — you’re either lazy or you don’t have the right mindset.
I know you’re not lazy because you’re reading this website.
That leaves us with mindset…
3 mindset shifts to finally be consistent
By now you’ve heard the many themes in my life over and over.
I procrastinated, didn’t follow through, and so on. Now I simply choose to do something — ANYTHING — and do it with ease.
It might sound like bragging, but would you brag about brushing your teeth every day? Is it bragging to say that you go to work every day?
No, of course not!
When you are consistent with something, it’s not brag-worthy — it’s just something you do without thinking about it.
It’s the person you are.
That’s why it’s called being consistent.
Mindset shift #1: You get what you deserve
I want you to read the following out loud to yourself right now:
I will always get what I deserve.
Repeat it again and again. Not until you believe it, but until you understand that it’s a universal truth.
If you want the results, but don’t want to put in the work — fuck you. You don’t deserve it.
But if you are consistent and you are holding up your end of the deal — you deserve the results and you shouldn’t feel any shame in saying so.
You aren’t consistent because you want to be.
You are consistent because you have to be if you want to be the person who deserves the end result.
This is the mindset shift that changes you from an average person to above average.
The first mindset shift requires ruthlessness because this is the hardest step.
The average person is weak-minded because they aren’t ruthless with their mindset.
Mindset shift #2: It’s not what you do, it’s who you are
The first mindset shift forces you to take action and be consistent with whatever it is you’re pursuing right now.
That works for gaining traction, but eventually, it’s not enough to keep you going.
The next mindset shift is to stop worrying about how to stay consistent with one thing and to figure out how you can be the person who is consistent with anything you want.
Once you’ve taken consistent action for a while, people around you will notice. Seeing your changes has probably sparked criticism because people don’t like to see others make positive changes…
It reminds them of their own mediocrity and inability to be consistent.
Between the back-handed remarks you get from others, and the unpredictable nature of a busy life, excuses will take a toll on your mind.
On the other hand, consistency is gratifying. You feel great about yourself because you know you’re putting in the work and you know you deserve the results.
And that’s why you have to double down on your new outlook.
Consistency is no longer something you simply do. That’s a given, now.
Consistency is who you are.
It’s part of your identity.
If men can decide to identify as women, you can decide to identify yourself as a person who is consistent. (And you don’t even have to get any surgeries!)
You are who you are — even when it’s hard, when it hurts, and when others try to tell you otherwise.
You don’t stay consistent because you want to anymore…
You do it because that’s the type of person you are.
It’s funny how when you make this mindset shift the world is forced to adjust.
You know that phrase we use on a regular basis to explain why a person does what they do, even if we don’t like it…
That’s just who he is.
You’ll know when you’ve made the shift because the world will give up on trying to change you.
It’s just who you are.
Mindset shift #3: Consistency is a habit
You had to confront yourself and get real about what you deserve to start taking action.
You had to become the person who sees consistency as part of their identity to keep going.
To make consistency permanent, it has to become a habit.
Answer the following questions:
- If you were running late for work and you knew that brushing your teeth would take just enough time to make you late, would you still brush them?
- It’s normal to get so busy that you skip lunch. Have you ever been so busy that you went 24 hours without eating?
- Despite how busy you get, do you still find time to do laundry, put gas in your car, and check social media?
No matter what circumstances pop up, why do you consistently do those things?
They are part of your daily routine.
And how do you add something to your daily routine?
It’s not enough to understand the concept of paying your dues, although that puts you ahead of 90% of people.
It’s not enough to become a consistent person, because people change, and you can always change back. However, being that person will put you ahead of 98% of people.
Being in the top 1% of people in terms of consistency requires one final mindset shift.
Whatever it is that you’re trying to be consistent with can no longer be viewed as optional or extra.
The reason I never miss workouts is because going to the gym is like taking a shower or getting dressed — it’s part of my routine.
If the thing you’re pursuing is truly important to you, it’s a part of your daily routine that forces you to adjust other activities around it.
You wouldn’t go without eating or taking a shower — so why would you make exceptions for anything else that’s just as important to you?
This is why some people make it look so easy to be consistent.
It’s easy because it’s a habit and sticking with a habit is effortless.
The only consistency in your life is your daily routine, assuming you have one.
The only things that consistently remain in your daily routine are your habits.
If you’re like me and you have to learn things the hard way, you had to go through the first two mindset shifts before you could make consistency a habit.
On the other hand, if you prefer to learn things the easy way and cut ahead in line, I wrote the definitive book on being consistent with ANYTHING — Hacking Your Habits.
99 Habits For Those Who Want it All
This FREE guide includes 99 action steps to get in shape, feel excited to start the day, and accomplish more in less time!
What do you think? Do you agree, disagree or have any thoughts to add? Let me know in the comments below.
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