“I am not the smartest or most talented person in the world, but I succeeded because I keep going, and going, and going.”
– Sylvester Stallone
Failure is the most popular girl at the moment.
For centuries people despised her.
She was looked down upon.
She got no respect.
She was avoided at all costs.
Then rumors started spreading.
Nearly ALL of the most successful men had slept with her a few times in their journey to riches.
Once the word got out, successful people started bragging about their past flings with failure.
Caught up in her lust, they started to actually CREDIT her for their successes.
… or so you think.
All things come to an end.
Every great empire, every business, every life – they all eventually end.
Western society was once the most respected culture in the world. Now we are mocked and ridiculed. And rightfully so.
We had it all and squandered it.
We have it all and do very little with it.
Admired qualities such as honor, discipline, and strength were traded in for political correctness.
Society has gone soft for the sake of being nice.
Now I could be alluding to many things here, but I’m only focusing on our relationship with failure.
Successful people tell you that it’s okay to fail because they know that’s what you want to hear. They don’t want to hurt your feelings and see you discouraged so they tell you that failure is a good thing.
This whole idea that you have to fail forward or keep moving from failure to failure until you make it is complete bullshit.
By accepting the notion that failure is okay you are already setting yourself up to fail.
Now you have people that brag about all of their failures like it’s some sort of badge of honor. In fact, the word “fail” has become such a common and accepted word in our daily lives.
There are entire websites and social media pages dedicated to celebrating “epic fails”.
I do think it’s great that we are able to laugh at our own mistakes, don’t get me wrong.
Do you think it’s possible that we’ve taken this whole failure thing a little too far?
I think we’ve gotten too comfortable with failure.
The Relationship With Failure
Failure might be the popular girl now, but she is not relationship material.
She’s a dirty temptress who uses and abuses anyone willing to lay with her.
Best case scenario, you have a little fun but get nowhere.
Worst case scenario, you knock her up (addiction, crippling debt, depression, etc) and she has you in her grasp for years.
Successful people brag about their failures for 2 reasons:
- Because they are no longer considered failures themselves
- To help you justify your failures and make you feel warm and fuzzy inside
Bragging about failure is only respectable AFTER you’ve succeeded.
It’s something that you laugh about how you used to do.
All these people encouraging you to be proud of your failures are secretly mocking you. They’re saying “I was a loser then, so it’s cool for you to be a loser now“.
Failure is the girl you practice with so you have a chance at the girl you want.
Failure is the sloppy-seconds of the guy who now has the woman of your dreams.
Success is a respectable woman that requires intense courting.
“If you never fail, you really never try…”
Here’s the problem with what I’ve said so far – failure is inevitable if you are trying to live a great life.
I completely believe that failure is something that everyone faces to some degree on the road to success.
I simply want to change the narrative about failure.
In my humble opinion, we should avoid failure. We should despise it. We should seek to win at all costs.
The reason why I say that is, well, in order to succeed you have to…. wait for it….. SUCCEED!
Stop focusing on the allure of failure. There’s nothing magical about it.
You’ve been told that you have to fail to learn, but that’s a lie. You can learn from the failure of others. It’s just easier to learn from our own failures.
Failing is easy.
Be honest with yourself. Look back at the failures that you covet so much.
Did you really fail? Did you give it your all? Did you push yourself to your physical and mental limits, only to fall short of the task?
No, you gave up.
I have failed plenty of times in life, but more times than not – I gave up.
You know how people become successful?
They get tired of failing, so they stop giving up.
That’s not me bragging. There’s nothing to brag about.
I wasn’t born rich. I don’t have elite genetics or god-given talents.
It’s impossible to brag about hard work, because no one envies hard work.
I’m not even competitive. I just hate to lose.
I have a champion’s mindset. The only person I compete with is myself and my goals. I expect to win. I get no joy from winning. I only get misery from losing and letting myself down.
People who tell you that you NEED to fail are telling you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear. The truth is, you NEED to succeed if you want to be successful.
There is great power in having a life vision. You eventually get what you focus on most.
Focus on winning.
Failures are bumps in the road. Treat them that way.
When you are driving to work and you hit a pot hole in the road, you don’t pull over and examine it. You don’t take pictures of it and show all your friends. No, you make a mental note and swerve out of the way to miss it every single day after that.
Failing may be the trend now, but trends never stand the test of time.
You know what does? Winning.
Losers make headlines for a day. Winners stay in history books forever.
Until Next Time,
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