There’s a piece of advice my dad gave me as a kid that has always stuck with me, regarding money and women. I’m not sure who originally created this saying, but this is how he said it to me:
“You can run out of money while chasing women, but you’ll never run out of women while chasing money.”
Even as a kid it made logical sense to me. However, now that I’m an adult I can see just how true those words are.
If you want to have lots of women in your life, or maybe just one very special woman – the last thing you should do is go chasing them.
Instead, chase the things that build yourself up and women will chase you.
When You Chase Women
What happens when you chase women?
Your focus becomes centered on them instead of on yourself.
You become a pawn in their game when you start chasing women.
Women have fun with pawns and they will play you until you’re broken and move on to the next chump. However, they will never actually respect you.
Women can smell desperation better than dogs can smell fear.
Don’t be that guy who has to rely on buying shots to get a girl’s attention at the bar. While you’re at it, don’t be that guy that has to be in a bar setting to even have a chance with a girl.
Chasing women is a waste of time and money. Let’s be realistic, those strategies are hit or miss.
Why not have the women do all the chasing?
But women don’t approach guys… it’s the man’s role to chase women…
Those are the thoughts of a loser – get them out of your head now!
Women do approach men, very often actually. In fact, when it comes to chasing the opposite sex, women can be way more aggressive (at least in my experience) – but only when they are motivated. Your job is to motivate them.
When You Chase Money
I use money as an analogy for success. Money is only one variable in success and it’s not the most important one either.
However, this isn’t some cutesy feel-good blog meant to give you warm fuzzy feelings, so I have to be honest here. Women are attracted to money.
It’s a survival mechanism. Money means safety and stability. Money means a good life for a family.
Similar to how men are naturally inclined to be more attracted to women with wide hips (look it up) because they are more likely to birth more babies without labor issues – women are attracted to men who can provide.
I said money is only one variable. The other variables I was referring to are:
- Taking care of your health and being fit/strong
- Acquiring skills that you are good at
- Gaining as much knowledge as possible
I said money wasn’t the most important because if you do those things, money won’t be hard to come by.
“If you build it, they will come”
Focus on building yourself into a great man and women will chase you.
There will be no need for going to bars to pickup girls.
You’ll start getting hit on in the grocery store, at the coffee shop, at the gym and pretty much anywhere you go. (Kinda like how attractive women get hit on everywhere they go)
The secret to getting anything you want is to put in the work. It’s actually no secret at all, it’s just so rare that you see people do this that you’d swear it was.
Don’t try to change yourself for women, that’s for suckers. Instead, be yourself and people will respect you much more for that.
Just to be clear, I’m not saying that you should NEVER approach women or put in any effort.
I’m simply saying that you can create a situation where you no longer have to do that.
In fact, sometimes girls will either be too shy or too intimidated to approach you. That’s a good sign if that happens.
If you’re constantly getting approached by mediocre women, you’re probably doing something wrong. There’s a reason that they feel like they have a chance. Keep that in mind.
Also, there are plenty of women who are worth chasing. The percentage is low, but they are out there. Don’t start thinking you are too good to try, that’s the wrong attitude to have.
It’s just that, in general, chasing all women is completely unnecessary and is a waste of time and money.
Chase success, not women. Build yourself up and they will come. Get to work fellas!
Until Next Time,
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