“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
Have you noticed that as you grow older the world doesn’t seem as innocent as it once was?
You once believed that most people were genuinely good people, deep down at least. But now you start to question if that’s really true.
I can’t blame you. It’s difficult to feel otherwise at times.
But have you stopped to question yourself? You aren’t so innocent. Not anymore at least. Do you think that affects your world view?
It would be impossible for it not to.
Are you quick to write off the success of others and call them sell-outs and scammers? Is that because you don’t think someone can be honest and successful? Does that mean you wouldn’t be an honest person if you had millions in the bank?
I’m not attacking you, because I don’t think you actually feel that way. But we all know people who do. And those are fair questions to ask.
I’ve always been fascinated with human psychology and behavior, for as long as I can remember.
Being a natural observer, I find it easy to make connections between behavior and outcomes. The one behavioral trait that I’ve observed the most is mindset.
Mindset is everything.
That’s the good news. After all, you have a mind. How else would you read this?
The bad news is mindset is everything. If you can’t take control of your mind, you’re screwed. Life is going to be miserable for you, because something is always affecting our minds. If not you, someone or something else is.
This article is about perspective and how it plays a role in the outcome of our lives. It’s not about the law of attraction, it’s about common sense.
Although, to some degree, the law of attraction is common sense.
You Are a Product of Your Environment
As you are well aware by now, my life had a humble beginning.
This gave me the opportunity to study poor people in their natural environment — my neighborhood.
I was determined to make it out and be successful. I knew thousands of other people had made it out before me, so it was definitely possible. My goal was to figure out why some people made it and others didn’t.
The number one thing that I observed was that those who made it out believed they could. The rest accepted their fate of being stuck in poverty forever.
This attitude of “well, some people are just born lucky” was common among the people I grew up with and created a mindset of complacency.
Yeah, some people are born lucky. Good for them. But what’s that have to do with you?
I couldn’t fathom why they were so content with being poor forever.
Fast forward ten years. Not a single person around my age from my neighborhood has started a business or graduated college.
I grew up in the same environment. Surrounded by the same negative attitudes. We even had less money than most of my neighbors.
So how was I able to make it out, graduate from college, and start several businesses?
My mind never occupied that environment.
I never accepted that I would be poor forever. I always knew it was temporary, despite what anyone else said or thought.
That attitude set me apart from everyone else in my neighborhood, making me an outcast.
You just think you’re better than everyone else…
By the time I reached high school I didn’t have any friends that lived on my side of town. Well, not any close friends. My friends all lived on the side of town where the money was. Even though I was poor, I could relate to them more.
It’s no shock that most of those people are doing something with their life, because they grew up in an environment where that was the expectation.
We are products of our environment.
You can’t always choose your physical environment or circumstances, but you can control your mental environment.
Your Reality is Your Mirror
What you focus on is a reflection of your thoughts and beliefs.
You direct the majority of your energy towards the things you focus on the most.
Therefore, your reality is a byproduct of what you focus on.
I’m not saying that your thoughts literally create every aspect of your reality. I’m saying they play an important role.
What you see is a reflection of who you are.
If you only see risk, you are a coward.
If you only see opportunity, you are a risk-taker.
If you only see failure, you don’t believe in yourself.
You get the idea.
None of us only see one thing. We are more complex than that. But we have a tendency to focus on certain things.
The things you have a tendency to focus on are the strongest indicators of your mental environment.
You will learn a lot about yourself by identifying these tendencies and looking for the root cause.
Another way to approach this is to look at how you criticize others. It’s no secret that humans tend to criticize others on the same things that they are insecure about themselves.
Most people would be better off if they directed their criticisms at themselves, instead of at others. Then maybe they’d get inspired to make a change.
If you aren’t happy with your reality, take an honest look at your role in your life’s outcome.
Could you have done things differently? Could you have tried harder?
99% of us can answer “yes” to both of those questions.
Your reality is a reflection of yourself. Everything changes when you accept that.
Focus on What You Want and Move Forward
Turning things around is simple, but not easy.
I know, I always say that. But that’s usually how life works.
Focus on your desired outcome.
Focus on all of the paths that lead to your desired scenario.
Don’t focus on your problems, focus on creating solutions.
There will be those around you who call you naive and try to encourage you to settle. There are two likely reasons that they want you to play it safe:
- They doubt you and don’t want to see you get hurt. (Less likely)
- They doubt themselves and either don’t want to see you succeed or don’t think you have what it takes either. (More common)
Either way, the result isn’t positive.
The same people who call you naive now will call you a sell-out when you make it. Fuck ’em. Their opinion has no value.
Focusing on what you want isn’t enough though. It’s a good start, since most people tend to focus on what they don’t want.
You have to consistently make progress towards your goals.
It’s a never-ending commitment.
Every single day should bring you one step closer.
Setbacks are inevitable. That’s why you can’t afford to be complacent. You need to be consistent about making progress to make up for those setbacks.
Time is going to keep going, no matter what you do.
You’re already headed towards an outcome. It’s up to you to decide if it’s going to be the one you want or the one you don’t.
You are a product of your environment, but your environment isn’t limited to where you live or what you have.
Your environment is limited by how you think and who you choose to surround yourself with.
Your reality reflects who you are on the inside, whether you realize it or not.
The key is to realize it and change it.
You give most of your energy to the things you focus on most.
Focus on where you want to go, instead of where you don’t.
What you see in the world is a direct reflection of who you are.
Once you realize how true this is, you’ll find criticism directed your way much easier to handle. And you’ll find yourself less inclined to criticize others.
Until Next Time,
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